There is much division in the autism community. It saddens me beyond measure because I thought we are all working towards the same goals-awareness, acceptance, inclusion, kindness, understanding, and increased opportunities for autistics.
If we all arrive at the same destination does it matter how we got there? It seems so. If you don’t travel one specific way you may be an outcast, attacked, shamed and even in some cases threatened.
In preparation for world autism awareness day, I got out my son’s AAC device opened up his colors board and asked him what color should we wear and HE CHOSE blue. It was no surprise because blue is his favorite color. If he had chose yellow or purple we would have worn those colors. Next year, I will ask him the same question and we will support him by wearing what color he chooses.
So, here’s the dilemma….
Some autistic individuals are against wearing the color blue because of its affiliation with Autism Speaks. I was so worried to post pictures of my son smiling in his blue shirt for fear of backlash or being attacked. But, I posted it anyways because his voice matters most to me and I will never allow anyone to silence him. He’s worked so hard to be able to express himself and make choices.
I’ve always tried to be fair and to listen. I love to learn and to hear the perspectives of others, in doing so it opens your mind to potential, possibility and diversity.
I’ve been saddened to hear that individuals outside of the autism community who are becoming aware of autism and who posted about autism this month (to show their support) are being attacked because their post may not have the right language, may include a puzzle piece or the color blue. In my view, these attack are a major setback for all of us and what we strive for.
We need conversations about Autism. If people are getting attacked because of it then everyone will just steer clear of all of us.
Every attack, every fight is a step backwards in our journey towards acceptance and inclusion.
It’s not the message but the method of delivery. We need to disagree respectfully.
Where is the respect in the autism community?
I hope that the divide shrinks and the autism community becomes one of pride, love, respect, hope and acceptance. I hope it becomes a place where diversity in thought and perspective isn’t just accepted but empowered and welcomed.
One community. One love.
A place where parents, professionals, and ALL autistic individuals can support and embrace each other, even if they support conflicting ideas.
I have no problem extending my hand to someone wearing blue, sporting a puzzle piece, an infinity symbol or all 3. My son will also be tolerant of the symbols/colors that others use, even though he may disagree and use something entirely different.
I want my son (and myself) to be proud members of a vibrant autistic community.
A community that chooses education over destruction.
A community that chooses kindness over hate.
There is no right or wrong way when it comes to autism, but many ways to reach a desired outcome, goal or perform a task.
I will continue to listen and support my son on this journey as I always have. I will continue to focus on him as a person, not on the symbols, colors or words he may choose to represent himself.
There is room at our table for different perspectives and diversity- no matter how you got here.
I see you, I welcome you and I’m glad that you are here.
Stalen's Way 